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There were several reasons that made me come to this big decision. Our generation has a pretty hard time dating, and one thing I hear constantly is how guys ruin it. I have noticed how disrespectful the guys are. You feel like nothing more than a piece of ass sometimes and it honestly hurts your soul. This kept happening to me while I was single and I finally got fed up. I was done with guys.
There are some women like me that respect themselves and do not give it up shortly after dating for a little while. Just accept that you may remain single forever. This article must have been written by someone young who still believes in Love and Happy Ever afters. Wake up, Cinderella - it may not be a prince that wakes you up, it may be the need to have a pee. Not dating again or ever getting married should be seen as a blessing. Civil Engineering? Forget dating, forget marriage, that ship is never coming into the harbor and you should REJOICE that freedom, not wait with bated breath.
A life spent alone is not a life at all. I believe you. Some people are just destined to be mistreated. As soon as they all hit puberty they turned against me. I have no police record, I own my own business and work at a law office. Weather I want to be friends with a woman or peaceful co-workers they seem to attack me.
I blame no one, just call it life. Some well-meaning women will give token encouragement for being a good and decent person, but you know that they are saying this from left field. God gave me a GREAT life, and it is my great satisfaction to help others not as fortunate, but just like yourself, qualities I may have are just not in demand for the opposite sex.
Best wishes! Stop blaming everything on feminists, asshole men made us into the proud bitches we are today. You made your bed, now you have to lie in it:. Keep believing what you want to believe, to help your fragile self esteem.
But the truth is the typical woman these days is not attractive to a good man.
I am a 31 year old guy who gave up on dating. Modern dating sucks and most everyone does it for the wrong reasons. All I seem to find are the psychotic ones. This story is just like any other American Woman fairy tale.
The Alpha Male who treats them like shit, uses them and then kicks them to the curb. I am 43, I know what I am talking about. Honestly, the only choices I have at this age are the desperate ones, Bi-Polar ones, etc. There are no good ones left.
This is so damn true and I am 12 years older for crying out loud. American women have lost it when it comes too love. They are not interested in real love anymore. If your not that alpha perfect male making K per year, forget it. Me, I am just going to see about doing a marriage of convenience and see what I can get out of it.
Plenty of women need green cards. At least then I can have her for two years and when she has her permanent residency, kick her to the curb. So yeah, I am done with the bullshit games. Why date some over weight tatted up slob and be stuck in a rut when I can choose my mate for two years. Matt, you ARE the guy that Lindsey is writing about.
Stats: In shape with relatively healthy diet. Classically trained musician. Successful analyst job with energy company. Funny small youtube channel. Excellent sense of style. Biggest desire - To be a family man. Looking For: Works out. Likes not just tolerates my taste in music. With stats like that, why would a guy like me give up on dating? Literally that is the ONLY thing that fuels their rejections.
You can talk about men being pigs all you want. I am very respectful to women on dates. You know whatt I get in return? The women disappear.
My friend is a jerk to women and has infinitely more luck than I have. He treats them terribly but they flock to him. Wow a lot of bashing towards women and the author. How do the negative male posters know that these men are the alpha jerk types? Attraction wise I was out of his league but he won me over in many other ways and soon I was finding him attractive.
He had a lot of deep rooted insecurities, and I found out cheated heavily over the years to feel better about himself. I loved him and was always loyal? No amount of love or support could fix thathe needed to work on himself and become more confident. Women like confident men with strong personalitiesnot necessarily jerks. A beta can be very attractive to a woman if he works on his confidence.
I detest people that blame the opposite sex. Good for her. So beta women bathers, take a look in the mirror and figure out your own inner demons before you write off the opposite sex. Cheers to the author and good luck! Check any dating site statistics, men want younger women who give them lots of sex. We start as friends and feel each other out. Everyone feels happier this way.
I can really identify with this. The Last female in my life was just as undependable, unreliable, and unstable that you would laugh; though she actually did love me-at a certain level. Someone whom you wait for all day to meet you for lunch on the weekend and keeps putting it off via endless excuses resulting in my skipping lunch on the whim that she May allow me to take her out to lunch somewhere-and of course I would pay the bill and the tip.
This woman lived paycheck to paycheck always blowing her money on petty things, was taking care of a 10 year old daughter who threatened to kill me several times and blamed me for believing in Science and not Spirits. I on the other hand, being logical and always thinking ahead, planning for the future, saving moneyhave 0 debt and am financially independent.
She refused to cohabitate with me. So let me start by saying that I am long past that screw everything that moves phase of my life and in general never really had that phase. I started dating because I was actually looking for a real relationship. As crazy as it might sound I was looking for a honest connection with someone on every level and not just a one night stand. I wanted everything that came with a relationship, even that emotional stuff that a lot guys seem to be scared of.
So I put myself on two dating sites and putting in as much effort as I could to hopefully meet someone. I talked to a few women and even had some pretty great dates.
But I also got plenty of rejection and was stood up more than a couple times. After putting in a bunch of effort and feeling like nothing was ever going to change, the whole thing started to wear me down. It got to the point where I would go weeks without visiting a dating site and pretty much stopped asking women out. Today, I have closed my dating site accounts and cleared my phone of all the phone numbers of women I have dated.
I have always been happy and content on my own. All dating did was add a bunch of frustration and some sadness into my life, that I can frankly do without. Simply because I know after a few days, I will be happy and content again. I also have my flaws that I need to work on every day. More importantly, I have a precious young daughter that I set good examples for. An easy lay can spell a lifetime of disaster. The best thing I can suggest is start finding your god-given purpose.
You have to learn it, its the very gifts you use to ad to the world and something you gravitate towards. We are all given unique gifts. They will make room for you!
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Most people get indonctrinated by the media and financial institutions to do what they think is best. There is no A for effort in the real world either. Self-control requires confidence and patience.
Jan 26, My New Year's resolution this year was giving up dating. There were several reasons that made me come to this big decision. It wasn't easy, I promise, because I'm a pretty big flirt. Our generation has a pretty hard time dating, and one thing I hear constantly is how guys ruin kokusai-usa.com: Lindsey Grace. Don't give up on dating, give up on doing it wrong. Dating is like life, it can defeat you or reward you it depends largely on how you play the game. Many guys see a shiny thing and rush in to. Why don't you instead ask why a smart, funny guy doesn't want to date a smart, funny woman his own age? This is why women give up on dating. Men elevate beautiful young women to the absolute highest tier and hordes of them of all ages, income levels and attractiveness throw themselves at these women, pushing aside a lot of great ladies in their singleminded focus.
No matter how hurt you get, you are responsible for educating yourself and showing restraint in your actions. I lost a beautiful woman recently because I was an arrogant jerk. Did I say screw all woman, they are all the same? I will not blame women for what didnt work out in my life. A true man learns from his mistakes and takes the bull by the horns.
This applies to alphas and betas. The true alpha knows this, and also watches out for betas and helps them strengthen. This isnot BC. I can only suggest the same thing. Learn from your mistakes, put positive elemenets in your life, find your God- given purpose, be willing to hold out on sex for marriage if possible and love your man as he would you with honor.
To Both sexes: A woman who puts out will only attract men who want cheap thrills. Dogs can pick up that scent. This can jeapordize her future and future good men she may encounter.
It works both ways. Take a stand. Pour out love for life. Stop blaming and fight the good fight! This gender war seems to exist only on the internet. Either a lot of people are hiding this, or only the bitter, hateful types are whining to the internet.
You only see what you want to see and can see; working in a male dominated field I can assure you men are fed up. Peace out! Not everyone is meant to experience marriage, longterm committed relationships or have the gift of raising and nurturing the next generation.
There is no one right person you are meant to be with. There are plenty more fish in the sea, but unless you have abundant time and energy to swim, these fish will swim past you. Over 35 the game is pretty much over for women to be considered a catch.
At some point - for me it was 34 - you have to acknowledge and accept that life has dealt you a certain set of cards due to the choices you have made over the years that have resulted in your singlehood.
Giving up on dating?
Yes, its my fault. I accept FULL responsibility for it. I clearly lacked the skills, allure, personality required to attract a partner. However, I am done blaming the opposite sex. They have a right to their choices just as I do.
Who am I to judge them? I find them baffling and wish I knew what behaviours would make one of them want to have a relationship with me.
But from your posts, I gather u don't have many family members or friends in the area that u live, so it seems extra-lonely if u give up on dating while there. I'm so introverted that my friends tease me about it, but your life sounds a bit too quiet even for me. Sep 01, Before You Give Up on Dating, Do These 4 Things #1. Keep on Dating, Because it Only Takes One. It's easy to forget that if you are dating for a serious relationship, you . Dec 18, Twenty five is a bit old, it is possible that something you are trying is chasing them away. Without more details, it would be impossible to nail down what that is. Some thoughts, talk to friends and family, ask them to be brutally honest with you.
I am done feeling bad about my appearance. Size 10 on a good day. That one is down to me. I am done feeling jealous of others. Good for them! I have accepted that I am not attractive to men. This was a hard fact to accept; but I have. I am not like most people who have full and lived personal lives. They have different skills to me. I observe them but I am not one of them. On first looks I could be seen to be one of them.
I need time out from people and to sit in the dark to have peace. The majority of my 30s was spent coming to terms with this.
I have found peace with this way of existence. I am aware that I feel physically sick when I am attracted to someone. Attraction builds over weeks and months. I now knowthat when I have this feeling I need to turn my attention to something else quickly because these deep feelings are NEVER reciprocated.
They are dopamine stories I make up in my head. I cause my own distress. You do it to yourself, just you. You and no one else. Three men have commented, without knowing me that well, that I have been hurt in the past. So I am not sure what I am doing to convey that - perhaps having a demanding job and active hobbies gives this impression?! Or maybe the men who commented were playing mind games.
When I mentioned I lacked the skill to attract a partner, I do mean the game playing thing. Why am I not allowed to show that I have feelings towards a man? Why must I not text him? In my efforts to not come across as needy, I have repelled.
So when people ask me why I am single I say, well, initially I took a break from it all which turned from a sabbatical into a way of life. My single life is not so desperately awful that I need a man to make it better. So it will take a non-fuckwit for me to consider changing how I spend my free time.
When people ask did you ever want children? Honestly, no I did not and do not see that type of lifestyle being fulfilling or enjoyable. Bringing children into the world is a big deal in my book.
You had sex education in school right? When people ask what type of partner am I looking for? Someone who will not run away after I have kissed them and actively contacts me. Age wise, men my own age are either narcissists, have child and emotional baggage, are bald or generally look old. A few years younger is ok.
Must have full head of hair, preferably dark brown. Similarly, very thin men are a no-go. The remark about women over 35? My aunt met her husband at She never thought it was going to happen.
There more and more women getting married after There is bitterness in your words here. What stupid comment. They are MY facts so that is how I will write them. JOG ON. You have chosen to be terribly offended at a comment on the internet.
Suggest you get back to your therapist and work harder. Nasty little internet troll. I am a 44 year old man been single for 10 years shaved head and full of flaws and I just wanted to say thank you for your honesty. Your post makes perfect sense.
And to be honest I pretty much feel the same way and relate to what you just mentioned. You sound as fat, hairy and ugly as you described yourself. American women don't know how or what real love is.
Just like the American dream is dead, so is true love. True love is being married for 70 years and when one partner dies, the other one follows within a day later.
Now, in the 21st century, the men wear the skirts and the women wear the pants. In a marriage, it doesn't last.
A close friend of mine also got sick of the BS and he went too Europe and found the love of his life.
Now 6 years later, he is still happy and they are inseparable. The truth is the truth. Men want real love and Women in America want to screw around. Robert Send a private message. I actually prefer the idea of a committed relationship. I don't believe in flings, one night stands, casual sex, hookups, summer time "romances", even FWB. These are all excuses for women to behave like whores, all that's missing, is the money on the nightstand, afterwards.
The only problem for men, who want, an actual committed relationship, is that women expect a lot from men, and rightfully so. But if a man doesn't measure up, in all the right areas, he is basically, SOL. So for men maybe wanting to give up on dating, maybe even before he starts, isn't that unreasonable. I'm I have read enough blogs on the subject to determine that I'm not qualified to be relationship material, or even datable.
Too many issues to count, and I'm too lazy to change. I quit giving a damn. My lifestyle affords enough, just for me. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure the loneliness, is really going to kick me in the ass, when I get older, but what do you do?
I'm a grouchy old man, at All I'm missing s the wooden porch, the rocking chair, and the shotgun on my lap. I already mutter to myself, so Don't give up on dating, give up on doing it wrong. Dating is like life, it can defeat you or reward you Many guys see a shiny thing and rush in to claim it.
There are millions of large mouth bass mounted on some guys den wall; who thought the same way. There are guys who get a date and spend gobs of dough trying to buy her affection The trick is to be selective in who you date. You do not need a woman to accompany you into a bar so she can drink on your tab and dance with. You need someone who might have or develop an interest in you and the things you enjoy doing.
The trick there is you need to be somewhat interesting and actually have something interesting that you do. How many guys ask "Where can we go, what can we do? You're asking the wrong girls, you're trying too hard to be something you're not Dangling tix to a Gil Dilbert thing is just trying to buy affection Lots of people don't know that Tonya and Tina are twins and have been singing Gil's back up since high school.
They broke up for a while when Tonya married Tommy Turner after graduation. Tina then married Tony Taylor The thing is Do you really think Tommy or Tony could have ever landed the Thomson twins without working smart? Or getting them pregnant? Well, you understand the point I was trying to make, right? Those little Thomson sluts weren't really very good examples now that I think about it.
Never mind. Tellingthetruthwhy Send a private message. Well since it really does take two to tango nowadays which most of the women that are still single themselves are very much to blame for that since they have become so very picky, selfish, greedy, spoiled, and very money hungry as well unfortunately. Most women now usually want men with a lot of money since they're nothing but users and losers to begin with since they will take advantage of these men that have money just to get the real expensive gifts that they want which is a shame that these men are being used that way to begin with.
Lets face it since this is Not the good old days anymore when finding real love did come very easy back then the way that it happened for our family members that even today many of our family members are still together now as i speak. Most men and women were very poor back then and had to struggle to make ends meat so the women had no choice but to Accept the men for who they were since Both men and women in those days hardly had any money at all to begin with.
But it really was a very completely different time for finding real true love back then since today is a totally different story why it is very difficult for many of us good single men that are still looking since it is the women of today that have really Changed and Not us men at all. The real problem here is that most women today really care about money which most of us men really Don't care at all how much money a woman makes since they really want to know how much money we make which is very sad.
Now if many of us men had been born back then as you can see which most of us really would've been all settled down ourselves by now and would've certainly Avoided this mess today to begin with since many of us men today Aren't Single By Choice. Focus on money and save your money. Women are still sleeping with you without marrying her, if you have moneyso why relationship or marriage? Gave up dating, waste of money. From what I've read so far, on different blogs, they all say "bitter", is no way to live.
It allowed me to lose 30 lbs. It acted like a focal point. I'm a grudge holder, to boot, so I don't belive that "happy" is a necessity, just a bonus. I won't even try. I've read enough to determine that I suffer from too many flaws, mental, and behavioral issues, on top of not earning enough money, not being college educated, and not having my own place, to make me ineligible to play the dating game. Too many issues to overcome, too old to change.
I mean, life sucks, in general, but I'm still here, going to work 5 days a week, hitting the treadmill, 6 days a week, going to the odd movie, if there is something good playing, going to the coffee shop, for some "me" time, no friends, just me. I'm not happy about it, but what do you do?
That depends on the women, or the men that you are meeting. If you live in a city full of douche-bags, not such a bad idea. I'd suggest that people, especially guys, hold off or take their time with dating.
In high-school, in collage, you know nothing about long term relationships, how they can waste your time, or screw your life up especially for guys Don't stop, slow down and stop making it your priority, all consuming Dating is not about getting laid. The goal is to find that good woman that will enhance you, and your life together Life can be grand or it can suck lemons. Who you choose to share that life with will have great impact on such.
Go slow, choose wisely. Seruously Send a private message. Most women are just very horrible to date nowadays unfortunately, and most of them have no manners and personality at all when it comes to most of us men.
Feminism is like cancer today that is caused by women. Insidious Send a private message. Baltimore poet: Women push for commitment like crazy. They want to get married just like before, except now, they have almost zero incentive to STAY married. Women getting married isn't the problem. Women dynamiting the family because "waaah not haaaaapy" or "life is hard and diapers suck" Happily every after?
Women these days are as fickle and flighty as they are stubborn and bull-headed. This is not the kind of person you want to enter into a marriage contract with. It surprises me more marriages don't end in divorce.
How many men out there just suffer silently and drink to deal with the stress. For me, I don't buy women food so they can critique my financial situation and compare my looks to "Chads and Cads".
I don't date. I won't ever marry or cohabit with a woman again. No way. I don't be daddy to some other guys kids and end up paying more child support!?! Um, no. Way too much trouble and pain for what she brings, which sadly these days is just a well used vagina and serious attitude.
Sorry, not a fun game. Not playing.
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Women have given up on monogamy, which makes them uninteresting to us for any serious relationship or raising a family. We even have to pay for the kids a wife has through adulterous affairs. Reality44 Send a private message. Most women today unfortunately aren't nothing at all like the old days when they were real ladies back then which most of them really were, and today most of these women are just a real joke altogether which is why many men now are going MGTOW the very safe way and a lot less aggravation too.
Women are not worth the headaches anymore. Online dating is a farce and have to jump through hoops to find a date.
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I'd rather spend my money on my Harley Davidson, Cigars, and friends. I was married for 24 years, divorced 3 years. Edited on December 27, at UTC by the author. Bandita Send a private message. I was looking for information and ran into this article. It surprises me how many have given up and have allowed themselves to become so bitter.
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