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I am a 38 year old female who is dating a 19 year old guy. I constantly analyze myself and worry that I am going to lose him. We are very happy and natural together when I let it flow. We talk about a serious future together as we have very compatible life goals, but I worry him being with me is stopping him from experiencing other people and happiness in his life. Anyone been through this? Success stories would be much appreciated. Years back, I dated a woman that was 12 years older than me.
I am not sure if I will pursue him yet. It started when I noticed him checking me out. He has the most amazing smile and eyes. There is an innocence about him. He makes me want to think about settling down He has so much life ahead and many things to do and see.
I'm honestly worried about getting my heart broken. I hope like you I can just go with the flow and have fun.
I know we'd have so much fun together. He makes me laugh and has a relaxed personality. I feel embarrassed somewhat admitting or sharing the age difference to people. It makes me think of those movies or something. I never imaged it would happen to me! Best of luck to everyone in this situation and if you are still around thread started it would be great to hear an ate. It was certainly a short lived fling for me. He is a lovely guy but reality for me is that how can he take care of me when he can't even take care of himself?
He still has a lot to learn. In saying that some are more mature than others. I don't think it's the age for me it's the stage of where someone is at.
I have met plenty of guys my age and they are soo immature it's embarrassing. If you have a connection and it feels right then go for it. Who cares what anyone else says. If you don't give it a go who knows where it could lead. It could be the best love affair of your life. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. You will know which one it is if you just allow yourself the experience. I regret none of it. I am 31 and my boyfriend is 19 I'm talking a lot of heat! Mostly because his mother doesn't approve and he still lives with her.
Not only that at one point his mother and I were friends.
It's so hard tho because we have an amazing connection. He tells me he's in love with me and so on. I know one day it will end. He has much more to experience but i think it's worth it for now. People also think we're the same age, I look younger then my age and he looks a bit older then his. I took my son on a train trip and he was hanging out with a 19 year old guy. I'm 42 and have cried because it's so unfair that this soul is leading a life that probably can't have me in it.
At this age it's so hard to find a man who's untainted by life. Dear confidence, Petty sure your not being honest with your post entirely, or yourself! As an intuition spiritual reader, I sense that you are playing with your mind.
Perhaps you are suffering loneliness and some sort of abandonment? It appears you may be selfishly unknowingly taking advantage of this young man cause he makes you feel young again, loved, and empowered. When you say it only matters if you are happy, what you are saying isyou want to be happy! My intuition suggest you try to reach deeper into your unresolved issues, and try to seek happiness from within. This young man may be filling a void in your life but be careful I was honest with this post.
I am not with this kid I was expressing feelings.
I really don't believe there's someone for me in this life. Thanks it may bear for someone soon but that doesn't mean I will end up with my dreams full filled. Marriage seems to be an I. R elationship T alk. I constantly ana The world needs more happiness. I f that's what you want to do, then go for it. Be prepared for the fact that he might be a bit, how can I say it, 'immature'.
N ot a bid deal. P Nelson. T hey're both adults so it's really no one's business except theirs. Kiwi girl aka jeanie D ating a younger man is pretty common, I think.
I am a 38 year old female who is dating a 19 year old guy. I constantly analyze myself and worry that I am going to lose him. We are very happy and natural together when I let it flow. We talk about a serious future together as we have very compatible. Feb 08, A little bit about the situation. I'm a 20 year old college student (soon to be 21) in a sorority and studying elementary ed. Over the past year, I've become friends with a guy in the teaching program, a 28 year old guy studying history ed. I AM a 28 year old woman who just come out of a 6 month relationship with a 20 year old guy. They dote on you and treat you like a queen and are usually proud to show you off. However, when they are ready to leave and do what most 20 year old males do (pursue and have sex with as many women as possible), they leave with little hesitation.
On GirlsAskGuys. Give me a six pack any day. A keg is too much. OH go for it.
Dr. Drew on dealing with a dating age gap
I would. S hould I be shocked or something? I am not. I find it quite normal, actually. I f you can stand a 20 year old man, go for it.
20 year old woman dating a 28 year old man
Of course, I'm biased - I'm married to a man 10 years my senior. Y our as young as the man you feel lol enjoy! B een there, doing that, only he's 22 and i'm Pete Parker. I t's always good to get an up-down age perspective.
You'll find out that sometimes it's not always about having a sexual attraction that's out there. Be careful and just have fun. There are critics everywhere so be prepared as well. You'll find your good fit someday as well.
I think if that's bad, then I wonder how a 29 year old with an 18 year old looks! W ho has read the book "Women's room"? It gives a very logical explanation on which age group should date which. First a young girl not younger than 18 anyway with an old man, then a middle aged woman like ith a young man then may be her age or a little yonger.
I ts ok! As long as you two arent together for interest I am only thinking the guy who is so lucky. I am almost 40 and no girl would see at me even once. I've never been happier He takes better care of my 2 kids than their own fathers, age isn't shit, it's ultimately the connection you have with that person.
S eems normal to me.
My dad prefers older women and he's like Mexican Barbie. I have a cousin and shes 28 and hes 20 and they both are happy, get along well,and share the same interests and all those things that makes them happy.
F irst, what do you think of an intelligent, mature twenty year old female dating a thirty-four year old divorced man? Thanks David for the feedback and it really puts things in perspective for me.
Live and Let Live I say! Thinking about it today. I feel you. Then I found out, the 38 yr old I was living with for a while. Then I found someone my own age. He ended up being a shady liar. I thought I could keep it casual. We both have feelings for each other, but he thinks we are doomed. And it can be hard to turn them down. They are a lot of fun, and the sex is great. Have fun with it. I can totally relate. I am just giving up.
I feel your heart. My experience has been similar. No thanks to Mr. I will have to learn to enjoy aloneness. I was 44 when I met my now-husband. He was The year age difference has made very little difference in our relationship.
Dec 14, There's a rule I follow. It's half your age plus 7. I'm So 15 is half my age plus 7 is I don't wanna date someone who just got the legal right to drink. Give her a year of that, and if she's the right match for my personality. I could tota. Jan 26, 20 year old fine. But as an 18 year old, I can tell you that most 18 year old girls are not mature enough to date a 28 year old. The social situations for an 18 and 28 year old are vastly different: 18 year old is just starting university, while a 28 year old is moving forward in a career. What Do Guys In Their 20's Want With Women In Their 40's? 1. Sex without attachment 2. Sex without (or far less likely) risk of pregnancy. If I think about it, I would guess that there's a bit of a group-think or trend following thing going on. This whole 'coug' trend (or more wide acceptance) may be a 'cool' thing to do.
He is kind of an old soul and had no desire to have kids. I am entering my peak years, starting to think about retiring in ten years if all goes well, and he is still in the building phase. He has more energy than I do, but not enough to create problems. That said, we are only 11 years apart, not twenty-five.
Would I have dated a year-old when I was 43? Guys in their twenties were, to me, terribly earnest and always seemed to be trying to prove how cool and mature they were. It usually wound up being more amusing to me than anything. But if this particular guy you are impressed with wants to take you out on a date, go. What do you have to lose? You never know who the great love of your life is going to be. I truly do expect to be with him until death do us part.
I believe men have a biological clock too. Something to think about when contemplating dating someone much younger with LTR in mind. Also, at any age you might find you relate well to an individual s who are much younger, but come to find out not on every level.
Each relationship lasted less than 2 yrs. If a dalliance is okay go for it. But if you are wistful for someone to grow old with, dating out of your generation is not an ideal place to look. For both genders. If I go to match.
Adoption takes years of bureaucracy and frustration. That is what I am looking for. To both posts about fertility being gone in a women who is are you guys kidding me? I am 44, almost 45, still have a period and am still fertile. And yes you are right. We have different cultures but shes older then me with a gap of 19 years. Sure, the risks are higher in every ct, but it is not impossible.
I think one the biggest issues would be starting fresh. Raising a baby when you have adult kids over I think giving someone much younger a chance is ok, just go in with an open mind knowing the relationship might end faster than expected. You never know, maybe the guy might change their mind about having kids. I have been a single soul parent for a few years, as well as busy building my business and put romance on the back burner so to speak until.
I am a youthful, active, attractive, happy, fun and healthy single Mom with two boys ages 11 and I have enjoyed conversations with a 25 year old over the last 8 months as attractive and enjoyable our brief encounters, never did I consider a potential anything past talking due to his age - we are 26 years apart. We have since had a total blast enjoying our time together on every level we take it one day at a time as well as touch basis with our emotions one day at time For now, we keep this new path in our relationship private and from my children as well.
Our friendship is most cherished first and foremost, but My Goodness the intimacy, the sex, the love making - what a TOTAL pleasurable blast - I have had more fun and have felt more comfortable than ever in my adult life. We are both aware that anything could change at any time such as Life in Generaland assure one another through open communication.
I had my son at 43 with no problem at all. Its a gamble at any age. Just higher percentage as we age. I think women in the range you mentioned would feel the same. Looking good, feeling healthy and wishful thinking do not make a baby. Im I know one who had 22! Most of these women were over forty when giving birth to the last ones.
If was not a rare thing at all. Everyone is not the same. This is some women not all. Mind over matter I say. This is an absolutely shocking reply. What utter, complete bollocks! We are not a statistic, we are individuals. We are all different. IN many countries and even here my aunts grandmother was having 10 plus kids past the age of 50 and all were healthy and strong including her. Ask any eskimo or explorernaturally the earth warms up and cools down every so often. As women have become more sexually liberated, our bodies are adapting and responding in a way where we are staying fertile for longer periods of time.
Our eggs are not aging as fast as they used to before the 50s and 60s. A 45 year old can have FSH levels of a year old. There are many infertile young women age who have FSH levels of a 45 year old. However, that said, IVF success goes down significantly after Here, read this, and instead of keeping up the delusion that your FSH levels can singlehandedly make you fertile at age 45, get your facts straight.
Get out of the books sweetheart and open your eyes. These people are sharing real life experiences and your throwing around info out of a book, Internet or wherever else you get them.
After all, my car was broken into on Tuesday! Evan is correct. Fertility starts declining rapidly at At 45 you may have normal FSH follicle stimulating hormone levels, but all that indicates is that you are likely still ovulating.
What neither disclosed is that they were very likely to have used donor eggs. And I get that. But it sure did give the public the wrong impression about what is possible.
Male chauvinist propaganda wants women to believe this. Statistics are skewed. Men need to stop thinking they are so frigging invinsable. Chew on that sour grape for a bit. Women had babies very late in life many years ago. In fact we are more susceptible to pregnancy because of our age and twins at that! If you are healthy strong and menstruating you are definitely fertile! Whether or not it happens for any woman of any age is not in the least bit dependent on you Evan, what you think, believe or read in a book.
Worry about yourself Genius!!! This is my job. If you do not like my facts or opinions, you are welcome to look elsewhere for free guidance. Happy holidays! Googling fertility statistics for something women is enlightening. I suggest the author of this article revisits google and revises his biased opinion. Sorry that reality angers you. The problem, of course, is that the only person hurt by your willful misunderstanding of female fertility is you.
My OB told me that fertility stats are for regular women, averages. He says I am not a regular woman.
I have had 7 kids, never a problem getting pregnant, even at The stats have nothing to do with me. The reserve numbers are not the same as reserve quality and it only takes one good egg. I have 67 cousins on one side of the family, lots of older moms on both sides and my brood has been very carefully limited to 7.
Lots of my gal friends lost interest in sex in their late 20s early 30s and needed fertility treatments then. Some of us are just healthier albeit rare. Do you honestly think evolution happens that quickly before the 50s and 60s. Good God. Then again, maybe Oedipus is rearing his head. Who knows? And later on for him could mean when he wasat which point SHE would be All about getting your foot in the door, perhaps? Or, if a man who had children during a previous relationship brought kids with him as a package deal, then we just may be very open to that concept.
In twice as many abortions were performed on women over 35 than on teens. Women over 40 can still get pregnant, so even though the chance is lower than at 30, in a relationship, this has to be talked about.
Lynn, Since many singles in their mid-forties already have kids, I can see how checking a want kids? I never would have guessed that. I totally agree Evan. They usually say, older women know what they want. Yep and this older woman would rather have someone her own age. I agree. I have a good friend that is wanting to date me. He will be 21 next month.
In fact, the first guy I dated after my divorce was 27 to my Our relationship was sweet, fun, and sexy. He reminded me just how much living I still had to do, that I was still sexy, and that dating could be fun. For me, at least, after months, I really started wanting someone my own age that remembered and could dance to The Cure.
I have that exact same age gap with my husband.
I am 44 years old. I met a year-old guy online last September for what was supposed to be a casual relationship. In December, he wanted to try having a full-blown, exclusive relationship. A couple of times, I broke it off because his job requires a lot of travel and he was always tired and sometimes canceled dates at the last minute. He would leave me alone for a couple of weeks and then contact me. I would tell him I would not mind going back to the casual relationship, i. However, he did not want to do that.
We have been doing well for the past couple of months or so. We talk openly about what we want from the relationship.
I have an year-old daughter. He has made it clear from the beginning that he does not want any children. I was engaged a few years ago and my ex-fiance and I tried to have a child for a year he is younger and has 2. Ditto with the boyfriend after him. So, I did not think I could not get pregnant. Well, with current boyfriend the year-ol I did get pregnant, but miscarried after 6 weeks. Boyfriend said he would have lived up to his responsibilities had I gone to term.
However, he was very relieved that I miscarried and is now convinced he does not want children. I read through this thread and am now very nervous. It seems that none of you give a relationship like this a chance. I am 12 years older than my husband and we are happier every day. People need to step off the age thing unless it causes some catastrophe. Its annoying. But each year after the 10th year is stressful especially when the younger partner is in early 20s.
Im with you on that one! Im finding this much younger man to be more mature than most men I meet my age!! I am 44 and full of energy and I found that I got bored with my husband whos 47!
I am a 38 year old female who is dating a 19 year old guy. I constantly ana..
Most have been I always tell whomever asks me to date to see if we get along and then tell them my age a couple to three months into our relating.
One 27 yr old insisted on going to take me out to lunch, traveling, hanging out at the beach and he was super attractive. We spent a year together. I only get involved with those that know they want an older woman to be with and have fun with normally. Actually glad my ex husband of 22 yrs ditched me for a younger filly with his ED. The stallions were worth the divorce. Beauty is fleeting but as long as I have the edge of being wrinkle free I will use it.
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